My wife of 33 years is losing her sanity

[garnet_abx]

Originally Posted by Monkey Hanger

My wife (of 36 years) is my lover, my confidént, my best friend, my soul mate. Need I go on?
Go figure!

She's also standing behind you watching you type.

[SubZero]

You are so lucky!!!

Originally Posted by Monkey Hanger

My wife (of 36 years) is my lover, my confidént, my best friend, my soul mate. Need I go on?


Go figure!

[pointreyes]

Originally Posted by garnet

She's also standing behind you watching you type.

[grsamf]

Originally Posted by garnet

She's also standing behind you watching you type.

I don't think that's true. I think he went to get a cup of coffee and she typed it herself.

[pointreyes]

Originally Posted by grsamf

I don't think that's true. I think he went to get a cup of coffee and she typed it herself.

Nah........she would not type in her age.

[oasis_abx]

Hello,

Here are some words of wisdom from one of my favorite actors:

“Please stay in Love with Me.”

[johnrr6]

Originally Posted by nowareman

I didn't even see it coming. One day she was the girl I've known since high school. An occassional rant or complaint. For the most part a reasonable human being. But events have led to her psychological undoing and I'm afraid she may never be the same.

We're getting our bathroom remodeled and it's taking a far greater toll on her than I could ever have imagined.

Yesterday I stayed upstairs in case the carpenters needed anything. I braved the dust and noise willingly, the thought of a our new bathroom strengthing my resolve. She called me for myriad trips downstairs for instructions in case of any calamatous event. The she complained I was "having fun" on my computer all day.

Today I turned my computer off when the plumbers arrived. I went downstairs to stay with her. I even brought a book. As I sipped my morning tea I was told emphatically that I had to go upstairs right then and "supervise" the plumbers.

Right now all is quiet. It's just after lunch so the fireworks haven't started yet.

But I can tell the fuse is lit.

I ran across your post----almost fell out of my chair. Almost 1 year ago to the day----we discovered that our shower had been leaking where we couldn't see it-----and basically destroyed the floor under our entire bathroom.

6 months later and $10,000 dollars poorer----we had a new bathroom. But I took about 30 "sucking chest wounds" from my wife of 25 years in the process. It was as if I was the bad guy in the whole mess. I got estimates----she didn't like them----I finally signed a contract---she didn't like it. She picked the tile, the paint and the wallpaper----and hated it when it was done----and blamed me.

It was as if she had totally lost her mind. At one point----my sons would greet me at the door way and say, "Dad----mom's in a pretty good mood----PLEASE don't mention the bathroom!"

There must be a name for this disease.....

Quite deadly....

John

[nowareman]

Originally Posted by subman

We had our bathroom remodeled 2 years back and there was the exact same tantrums and shouting and complaints all the time from the spouse for the 3 months that we had the Plumbers Carpenters and Masons around.

Here most of the work is done by hand so it takes ages to get work done. On top of that the workers are not very intelligent and they have to be supervised constantly which adds to the frayed nerves.

It was the worst 3 months of our marriage of 31 years.

The only difference in our case was that the spouse making all the noise was ME

Three months! Three months subman!?

How did you ever survive?

My contractor promised it would be two weeks maximum. It kinda' reminded me of "The Money Pit" but so far they are right on schedule. The first two rough inspections are complete and one more is scheduled for Monday. They'll be starting again early Monday morning.

All has been quiet for two days and I expect it will remain so for two more.

And then, who knows?

[nowareman]

Originally Posted by johnrr6

I ran across your post----almost fell out of my chair. Almost 1 year ago to the day----we discovered that our shower had been leaking where we couldn't see it-----and basically destroyed the floor under our entire bathroom.

6 months later and $10,000 dollars poorer----we had a new bathroom. But I took about 30 "sucking chest wounds" from my wife of 25 years in the process. It was as if I was the bad guy in the whole mess. I got estimates----she didn't like them----I finally signed a contract---she didn't like it. She picked the tile, the paint and the wallpaper----and hated it when it was done----and blamed me.

It was as if she had totally lost her mind. At one point----my sons would greet me at the door way and say, "Dad----mom's in a pretty good mood----PLEASE don't mention the bathroom!"

There must be a name for this disease.....

Quite deadly....

John

We had close to the same scenario. And the same chronology. Our kids are spared this stress. They are both grown and on their own now.

My wife picked all the tiles and such too. And it took a few trips to the tile distributor to get it right. I sincerely hope she likes it because I have a feeling that if she doesn't I'll be to blame just as you were.

I think Wingit hit it at the beginning of the thread. Their home is being invaded. Their nesting instinct is on steroids. And we are the buffer between the invaders and our now adrenalized wives.

[nowareman]

Originally Posted by Goldenfarmb

My family is also going through a "remodel". It's actually adding a new room and a remodel to the kitchen, but my wife is going nuts also. I think it's part of her maternal instinct. SHe is freakin gout that her "nest" is being pounded, drilled, and sawed on. Dust and crap everywhere make living conditions messy and that intensifies the insanity. We should be done in a month , if yours is done sooner, please let me know how long it take to get your old wife back.

Goldenfarmb

Sorry, I missed your post. I'll be sure to keep you posted on the reappearance of the woman I used to call my wife.

From experience over the past two days it shouldn't take very long for them to get back to "normal" (if the state they are usually in can be referred to as normal). I am beginning to recognize some of her former characteristics already. But Monday will be the test. And the rest of next week. We will be finished by next weekend if there is any mercy in the world.

I'll keep you posted if you'll do the same for me.

Good luck on your remodel. I hope it's finished on schedule and your lovely wife is completely satisfied with the results.

When ours is done I'm going for a

Matter of fact I'm going for one now. After this week I deserve one. And I'll even get one for the wife if she likes.

Coronas are in the basement fridge. Limes are in the kitchen fridge already cut into wedges.

[Monkey Hanger]

Originally Posted by johnrr6

I ran across your post----almost fell out of my chair. Almost 1 year ago to the day----we discovered that our shower had been leaking where we couldn't see it-----and basically destroyed the floor under our entire bathroom.
John

Something very similar happened to us. A leak under the bathroom floor came out down a part of the house we never see from the outside. The diaphram in a pressure regulator under the shower had perished. By the time we did see it, the whole floor and one wall in the bathroom had to be replaced.
As we wanted to "remodel" as you guys say, insurance payed for everything other than the new suite!

[oasis_abx]

Hello,

nowareman wrote:

The she complained I was "having fun" on my computer all day.

DR Phil

[Monkey Hanger]

Originally Posted by grsamf

I don't think that's true. I think he went to get a cup of coffee and she typed it herself.

No, I just typed what she told me!
I know my place.